tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5454741347864365388.post2083282794866053092..comments2013-06-10T13:42:16.355-05:00Comments on A little bit of special: Bringing Up Bébé Book ClubBethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15422824487777720710noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5454741347864365388.post-18891932776193500542012-05-16T21:54:43.075-05:002012-05-16T21:54:43.075-05:00I like your review coming from the perspective of ...I like your review coming from the perspective of a childcare provider, even if you've not been one for a while. I've noticed that look around to see if anyone is running over check with kids too before they decide to cry or not. It's kind of funny actually, (not the falling down part), but the part where they are starting to be aware that they way they react generates a certain reaction in adults.Geochickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04060602689692876499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5454741347864365388.post-54456801195395740382012-05-16T09:54:34.935-05:002012-05-16T09:54:34.935-05:00What is RIE?What is RIE?Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13143957669676401382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5454741347864365388.post-69543831742808407952012-05-16T09:46:18.752-05:002012-05-16T09:46:18.752-05:00My parents were similar, especially once I turned ...My parents were similar, especially once I turned 18. When I was 19, I got a second set of piercings and it took my dad two weeks to even notice. The tattoos were just met with mild amusement.Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13143957669676401382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5454741347864365388.post-54564898782448945562012-05-16T00:20:54.680-05:002012-05-16T00:20:54.680-05:00You know, your take on the book reminds me of how ...You know, your take on the book reminds me of how much some of the French ideas remind me of RIE ideas, like watching children play without interfering, encouraging to try things themselves without jumping in to help them and not running to them when they fall but instead showing them you're available to comfort them if they want that. RIE also encourages speaking to children about what you're doing with them as a measure of respect, because they deserve to know what you plan to do with them, not have it done to them without any idea of what is going on. I wonder if anyone else has written about the similarities between the two. <br /><br />Thanks for your take on this. Very interesting.Esperanzahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12375150088333673843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5454741347864365388.post-3288559684873928742012-05-15T15:21:58.314-05:002012-05-15T15:21:58.314-05:00That is a great point about using the pause with t...That is a great point about using the pause with trips and falls! I think that will be the hardest thing, is training myself to pause, though I definitely want to try it. I think it's true that a lot of a child's behavior is based on the reactions they get, so the calmer I can be, hopefully the better. My parents were always like that - very measured reactions to even what I thought may be shocking. Not that I was after shock value, but I still think it's funny that when I showed my dad my new tattoo (I was probably 19 or 20), he barely raised an eyebrow. Just mmmhmmm'ed me and went back to his paper or whatever.not undecidedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02058430758679276980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5454741347864365388.post-77194686634070383622012-05-15T10:05:50.342-05:002012-05-15T10:05:50.342-05:00Great review. I started doing the pause immediate...Great review. I started doing the pause immediately after reading the book and it was pretty successful. (Not as perfect as she makes it out to be, of course.) I never thought about 'the pause' for when kids fall - though I do automatically say "you're ok" in a chirpy voice.aplusefforthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12142056896638707180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5454741347864365388.post-16086781912298490452012-05-14T16:26:03.663-05:002012-05-14T16:26:03.663-05:00Thanks for your review! I especially appreciated y...Thanks for your review! I especially appreciated your opinion as a former childcare provider.<br /><br />This was particularly interesting: <br /><br />'The pause' also shows up elsewhere, and I've used it a number of times with kids when they fall down. More often than not, little kids fall and then look around to see if anyone noticed. If you go running, they start screaming as if they're dying. If no one appears to notice or you don't make a big deal about it, they usually can pick themselves up, dust off and go about their business.<br /><br />I also thought the book was overly flattering. Poor Druckerman: it can't be easy to be a sole American amongst such chic swans ;)jjiraffehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12223230253646995432noreply@blogger.com